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FOR
MEN
1. Don't show up
late especially on the first date. If you're going to be late, call and let
your date know. Nothing worse than feeling that the person doesn't care enough to
be on time or being stood up.
2. Don't talk
about your ex-spouses or prior relationships. If your date asks,
keep it brief unless asked. NO full history disclosures on first
dates!
3. If you
invited her out, then pay the check. Women still appreciate a man
paying her way.
4. Don't forget
to compliment. If you can't find anything to compliment your
date about, then she is probably not your type.
5.
It may be chauvinistic, but yes, women still like their doors opened or
their chair pulled out when dining. It is very gentlemanly and is always impressive.
It only takes a few seconds!
6. Ask her about
her interests and hobbies. Don't spend hours telling her about yours
unless you both have the same interests. Allow her to do the lead in then
take it from there.
7. Don't
obviously eye other women walking by. It is very rude. It shows
a lack of interest in your date. If you are not interested in your
date, then excuse yourself and call off the date. Don't give
false expectations. Focus on YOUR date.
8. Don't grill
her about her past relationships. When the time is right and you have moved
on to more than one date, then it may be appropriate to
discuss your past. If it moves forward to a sexual relationship then
sexually transmitted diseases should be discussed.
9. Don't answer
your cell phone on your date! No call is worth answering while you are out
on a date. Keep the focus on your date.
10. Don't ask
her if she likes to cook unless she discusses it first. You might come
across as presumptuous and looking for someone to fulfill your needs.
Take on this issue slowly.
12. Don't be too
flashy with money or jewelry. Show off's are a big turn off.
13. Don't get
too intense about politics or religion unless she brings up the subject and
is willing to discuss these issues further in depth.
14. Bring up
'safe' topics like music, movies, shoes, hobbies and most of all listen to
her first.
15. Don't smoke even if she does.
16. Don't use poor choices in words such as foul language or
that may be construed as degrading. Show
some class and leave the gutter words at home.
Tips:
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Show up with a half dozen red roses w/ baby's
breath. Follow up by sending her a dozen roses the following
day. Having flowers delivered the following day is a great way
to express your interest in her.
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Take a shower!!! Nothing like a
refreshing smell and douse yourself with some alluring scent.
Play close attention to your teeth and breath. Dating is as much about respect
for yourself. When you have self-respect and a clean
appearance, it is a winning combination.
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Whether you are dating
for friendship or towards a relationship, show that you respect
her as a person and not just a bedding partner. If you really want
to find a woman for a long term relationship, take it slow and enjoy the adventure of getting
there. .
How to
Impress a Man on the First Date!
The Do's and Don'ts FOR WOMEN
1. Don't show up
late and be ready when he comes to pick you up. If you're going to be late,
call and let him know as soon as possible. Be reasonable!
2. Don't talk
about your ex-boyfriends or ex-husband unless he asks. Keep it brief.
3. Don't drink
beer from the bottle. Show some class. Yes, ladies, there is
proper etiquette for the real woman.
4.
Remember, it is
much more enticing for a man to see a woman drink cocktails that are served in
stemmed glasses. Just think about how many movies portray women
drinking from a bottle. They are usually at a bar or situated in
a negative atmosphere. Now think of the movies where
they portray a woman drinks from a stemmed glass. Yes, they
stereotype! BUT, a lot of it holds truth. So why not use that stemmed
glass?
5. Ask him about
his interests and hobbies. Remember, this is a person with whom you want to
share time with and perhaps work towards that
special relationship. His interests may soon become yours.
6. Don't smoke.
Even if he smokes, don't.
7. Don't give
helpless attitude. A bitchy woman is such a turn off to just about
all men. They are looking for someone to have fun and to have
good feelings. Remember, it all leads to that special
relationship.
8. Don't answer
your cell phone. Of course you should bring it on your date just in case you need
it.
If you do want a friend to call you during the date to see if you are okay,
keep it short. Give your date the full attention that you both
deserve. You could also use the call to end the date, if for some
reason, it just isn't working out. Just say your friend needs you and
apologize for having to end the date. This way it is in a public place
and easier to leave. Otherwise, enjoy!
9. Only wear
high heels if you can walk gracefully in them. Most men don't like to
walk with a woman who appears to be clutzy. Shorter heels are just as
effective.
10. Don't
put make-up on in front of your new date!!!!! If you want to
refresh, go to the restroom. Or put it on before your date.
Don't appear to be unorganized, be ready!
11.
Number 10 also goes for at the restaurant table. Refresh in the ladies
room!!
12.
If you go dancing, keep focused on your date and not others. Make eye contact with your date.
Show those dance steps to him. During a slow dance slowly melt into him and
let him guide you. Yes, dancing is part of the flirting process, but
it shows that you want to be close to him and giving him a sense of trust.
13. If your
first date is with a group, don't gossip with your friends, or at
least keep it to a minimum. Your date might get the wrong impression
and suspect that you are talking about him. Change the subject if your
friends question you about your ex boyfriend(s). Don't let them go
there. Show your positive personality and that you are better than
gossip.
Tips:
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It's important to keep
your focus on the man you are going out with. Most men still like
treating their woman with manners and respect. Call it
whatever you like, but they do like to be the man in charge and making
their woman feel special. Being feminine is about a state of mind.
Show it and the man will show you a lot more passion. Remember
to smile!!!! If your goal is to really get to know your date
then treat him that way.
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Yes, some men may expect sex even on the
first date. Hopefully in your e-mails or online chatting with him via the dating
service, you have established what you want and have made it clear what
your intentions are. If do not want to have sex until the
relationship moves progressively forward, then expressing yourself before
the date is the right thing to do.

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